Every year before and after the start of the school year, many middle school students and parents suffer from "difficulty in choosing" between day and boarding. Which type of children are suitable for? After a month of 'game', I finally agreed to my child's request and rented an apartment across from the school, allowing him to switch to day school On October 8th, Ms. Li, a parent of a high school sophomore at Changsha No.6 Middle School, expressed some helplessness to reporters. Which is better for children or parents, day school or boarding school? Which method is suitable for your child? In recent days, reporters have interviewed some parents, teachers, and relevant individuals in Changsha to hear their opinions. Ms. Li rents a house near the school for 1600 yuan per month to accompany her. She lives in a residential area in Xihu Street, Yuelu District, and her son Xiaochen was admitted to Changsha No.6 Middle School last year. My home is about 10 kilometers away from the school, and we have to pass through two tunnels, which poses a high risk of traffic congestion. When my child entered the first year of high school, we let him live on campus, "Ms. Li said. However, in the second semester of high school, the child refused to live on campus. At the request of her child, Ms. Li asked him to switch to day school and drive to school at 6:50 am every morning. Due to the fact that my second child is still in primary school and needs to be picked up and dropped off, and my husband is busy with work, he basically doesn't have time to take care of this matter. Every morning is like a war, sending the big one and the small one. Sometimes, when I come back a little later, there may be traffic jams in the tunnel, and the second child will be late. "She said that after a semester, sending her two children to school has been unbearable for her. During the National Day holiday, Ms. Li spent several days searching and rented an apartment across from the school. She decided to have her husband, who works in Hedong, accompany her after work at night. The area is less than 20 square meters, with only one room, one bathroom, and a balcony converted into a simple kitchen, "Ms. Li said. The monthly rent is 1600 yuan, and there are also property management fees, water and electricity fees, etc., which cost about 2000 yuan per month. This apartment building has a total of 28 floors, with 16 rooms on each floor, mainly for students and accompanying parents who rent. The rent here is more than half as expensive as houses in the same area but not around the school. In the surrounding areas of other high schools in Changsha, it is also difficult to rent a house, especially in the bustling areas of the city. Due to the continuous growth of the "accompanying study army", houses in the surrounding areas cannot even be snatched up. Schools generally advocate living on campus, but do not require high schools and junior high schools in the urban area of Changsha to have student dormitories. Most of them have 6 to 8 people per room, and schools with better conditions are equipped with air conditioning, water heaters, washing machines, etc. According to the reporter's understanding, except for some schools with tight dormitory spaces, most middle schools advocate for students to live on campus, but do not require it to be mandatory. The Nanya Meixi Lake Middle School in Changsha, which will be completed and open in September 2023, has two student dormitory buildings, each with an area of 45 square meters, accommodating 7 to 8 people. The dormitory is equipped with air conditioning, electric fans, and has bathrooms and toilets. Principal Wang Weizhi told reporters that currently there are over 1700 students in two grades at the school, with only about 13% of students studying day and 87% living on campus. Changsha Bona Second Affiliated Middle School (formerly Hunan Normal University Second Affiliated Middle School) is equipped with air conditioning in each dormitory, with independent bathrooms and 24-hour hot water supply. There are over 2500 students in the school, with more than 1700 living on campus, "said Zhou Xiang, a member of the school's Party committee and director of the Student Affairs Office. Changsha Hengding High School also provides students with good accommodation conditions. Except for students who live within two kilometers of the school or have special reasons, students are generally required to live on campus. "Teacher Yi Po from the school office stated that in order to strictly manage students, quasi military management will be implemented for dormitories in the future. But there are also some schools where the proportion of boarding students is not high. Teacher Liu, the homeroom teacher of a provincial demonstration high school's sophomore year, told reporters: "In the first semester, more than half of the students in the class lived on campus, with 6 to 8 people living in each dormitory. However, in less than a month, some people gradually switched to day study. In the second semester, there were only three or four people left in each dormitory, and the people in the two dormitories were merged together. There were 50 students in the class, but less than 20 people lived on campus, and many dormitories were vacant." Parents are worried that their children will not be supervised and they will not be able to control the poor accommodation conditions in their own schools. Why do many parents have to spend money to rent houses outside the school to accompany them? Professor Chen Qinghua's child from Hunan Agricultural University once attended high school at Zhounan Middle School and was admitted to a first tier university last year. I was too busy with work at the time, so I let my relatively idle wife rent a house near the school to accompany me for 3 years, "he said, mainly because he was worried that without parental supervision, the child would not be able to control themselves and delay their studies. Mr. Hu, a parent of a child in their senior year of high school, said, "After their child returns to the rental room every night for self-study, we can have some communication, discover problems in a timely manner, and consciously guide them." Parents who support boarding believe that it is more convenient for their child to study and live on campus, and can better cultivate their self-awareness and various life abilities. It's great for children to live on campus after entering middle school. The unified management of the school and the constraint requirements of teachers are conducive to children's growth and promote their progress. "Mr. Wang, the daughter of a citizen who is in her sophomore year at Nanya Middle School in Changsha, told reporters that the school's good environment and strong learning atmosphere have a great motivating effect on children. Children's learning enthusiasm is more easily ignited by the" stimulation "of peers, far exceeding parents' repeated urging. Nowadays, children are very self disciplined and conscious in their studies and daily lives. They have good relationships with their classmates in the dormitory, chasing after each other in their studies, helping each other in their daily lives, and getting along very well. Actually, if high school students can overcome the difficulties of collective living, boarding is better Wang Weizhi said. Middle school students living as boarders can learn to coexist with others, cultivate a good personality through interactions with classmates, learn to care for others, strengthen collective values, and abide by the rules of collective life; The second is to cultivate independent living ability. In collective life, children are far away from their parents and have to be independent and self reliant in everything, overcoming the idea of dependence; Thirdly, boarding in school provides a regular lifestyle and ample study time, which is beneficial for physical and mental development. In addition, students who live on campus can participate more in extracurricular clubs and cultural activities organized by the school, experience the joy of growth, form profound school memories, and enrich their growth years. Boarding or commuting varies from person to person. The key to educating children well is whether to commute or live on campus. How should one choose? Professor He Shihai from Hunan University of Finance and Economics has been paying attention to this issue. He believes that the choice of boarding or day school for children varies from person to person. If the home is far from the school and transportation is inconvenient, the child has strong self-care ability, desires independent living, and can adapt well to group life, they can choose to live on campus; If the family is close to the school, the child's ability to take care of themselves and self-control is not strong, or if they need parental care and psychological counseling, it is best to choose day school. Families far from the school and financially well-off can rent a house to accompany them. If a child lives on campus, parents should try to find opportunities to communicate with the child and keep in touch with the homeroom teacher to understand the child's situation at any time He Shihai said, "Whether children live on campus or go to school, parents should cherish the time spent with them. Parents' education and companionship are the most important for children and cannot be replaced by other forms of education." He specifically reminded parents that for children who go to school, they must supervise their children to develop good sleep habits. In the middle school stage, many students believe that they have grown up and do not need their parents to manage them, but parents cannot be the "hands off managers" and should find ways to supervise their children; After the child returns home from school, parents should talk to the child more about what happened at school and the difficulties the child faces in learning, understand the child's psychological changes, and help the child solve problems. In addition, after a day of school, the child is very tired when they return home. If parents play with their phones or watch TV next to them at this time, it will create an unbalanced mentality in the child. So when children are at home, parents should put down their phones, read a book, and exercise, which will have a good demonstration effect on children. (New Society)