COVID-19 has caused some inconvenience and influence to our work and life. With the help of prevention and control measures, parents who are bringing their children will inevitably have some anxiety. Especially recently, the domestic epidemic has fluctuated again. Some children have been isolated at home, some children have taken online classes, and some children have restless "small emotions". At this moment, how should parents get along with their children? "In the face of this situation, parents can roughly follow a basic behavior principle, that is, more company and care, active communication, active explanation, and maintaining daily familiar work, rest and activities." Cheng Wenhong, chief physician of the Department of children and adolescents of Shanghai Mental Health Center, suggested that parents might as well make the epidemic a vivid lesson for children to "overcome difficulties". Combined with the interview with Cheng Wenhong, the reporter combed the "eight questions and eight answers" to respond to the concerns of the majority of parents. 1 how to explain COVID-19 to children? Answer: according to the age of the child, introduce COVID-19 in a way that children can understand. Let your child know that COVID-19 is a virus that affects human respiratory system as well as influenza. After vaccination, most infected people have no symptoms or cold like symptoms, and only a few people develop pneumonia, but it is highly infectious. We must carefully protect ourselves, family and classmates. To tell children, when life is affected, they should first keep calm and deal with it with confidence. The responses of children and adolescents depend to some extent on the adult responses they observe. If parents can calmly and confidently deal with the difficulties caused by the epidemic, they can set a good example for their children, let them know that parents or teachers can provide the best support and protection for their children, and let them feel at ease. 2. What if the child feels uneasy and anxious? A: when people are faced with emergencies or challenges, tension and uneasiness are normal emotional reactions. Parents should first reassure their children that they are safe. At the same time, let them know that if they feel uneasy and nervous, it doesn't matter. They don't have to feel ashamed and feel like a "coward". On the contrary, parents can tell their children that tension can stimulate their instinct to better protect themselves and deal with challenges. On weekdays, the requirements of "rules" and "tasks" can be appropriately reduced in a short time. Parents should help their children relax by means of more company, comfort, games and communication. We should identify children's difficulties in time, provide help and encourage children in time. 3. Do you want children to watch news reports related to the epidemic? A: according to children's cognitive level, excessive exposure to epidemic news reports, including social media, can be limited. This is because "over exposure" may cause children to misunderstand what they hear and be afraid of what they don't understand. At ordinary times, try to watch TV with children, which can not only increase parent-child time, but also timely guide, explain and communicate what children see and hear, so as to avoid children falling into unnecessary tension and fear. 4. The child is scared when he suddenly sees "Da Bai". What should he do? A: Children's emotions often come from their parents' reactions and explanations to the real situation. Therefore, we should maintain a good and positive attitude at ordinary times and tell children that the epidemic situation is something that can be overcome only through the joint cooperation of the whole society. Everyone has his own responsibilities and obligations. The staff in isolation clothes are "superheroes" in war robes, and "Da Bai" is the one to protect us from diseases, so don't be afraid. 5. What if the child refuses to cooperate and cries? A: for children, fear is more disturbing than discomfort. It can be explained to the child that this measure is to better control the disease, tell the child the detection process in advance, and even teach the child how to complete the whole collection process bravely and relaxed through the game of "playing home". In addition, children can also watch the picture of parents or other children successfully completing nucleic acid sampling, which will also reduce their anxiety. Parents can also try to communicate with the sampling personnel to see if there are more experienced sampling personnel for their children, or adjust to a time period with less on-site pressure to complete the sampling. When children finish sampling, they should be encouraged to act bravely and given a hug or small reward. What if the child can't go to home school? A: in this case, even if it is only 48 hours of isolation, parents should arrange for their children to be as familiar and normal as possible, such as familiar people, familiar items and toys. We should ensure that children have enough sleep, healthy meals and appropriate indoor activities. Parents should spend time with their children to carry out meaningful activities, such as reading, exercise, playing board games, making learning plans, etc., which can help their children through this difficult period. 7. The school is suddenly controlled and the child can't go home. What should parents do? A: in this case, parents are often more anxious. Older children can basically adapt to this sudden collective life. Some young children with poor adaptability will feel uneasy and afraid after the novelty has passed. If the child has a similar situation, the parents should take the initiative to inform the teacher of some behaviors and special needs of the child living at home. If possible, you can use the video call to calm the child's mood, and tell the child to fully trust the on-site teacher and take the initiative to ask for help when necessary. Parents' attitude towards their children that they will eventually get through the difficult period and trust the school teachers will make their children feel at ease and safe. 8. Worried about the aggravation of the epidemic, what if the school is closed and the children have to stay at home? A: if there is a long-term suspension of classes, or it is impossible to go out normally due to epidemic prevention and control, it will become more difficult to maintain a normal work and rest. At this time, in addition to making a good study and exercise plan, the communication between children and the outside world is particularly important. Regularly report the learning progress to the teacher, obtain supplementary learning tasks, and increase the communication between children and friends and classmates. If conditions permit, outdoor activities in the community and exchanges with neighbors can help children maintain a good mental state and better deal with the difficulties caused by the epidemic. (outlook new era)