Don't treat children as rare animals that can't be touched or touched. The rarer the species, the weaker the vitality. There is no greenhouse outside the campus and no children's play after growing up. The outside world will not easily forgive those lawless children! Instead of waiting for children to be beaten by society in the future, it is better to teach children to fear, fear life, respect elders and rules. 01 Previously, a video of students and teachers slapping each other in the face exploded on the Internet. Today, 99% of teachers dare not beat students. If a teacher hits a student, even if it is very minor, some unreasonable parents, especially grandparents, will find the school and the Education Bureau and ask the teacher to make reparations. At least, the teacher will lose face and reputation, at worst, he will be dismissed from teaching and lose his job. After "being bitten by a snake once", the teacher had to ignore the naughty children, can't provoke them, and can't hide? At school, teachers dare not care. At home, parents are reluctant to care! Has anyone ever asked Li Shuangjiang to beat children? Li Shuangjiang said, "if you don't fight, you won't give up. Sometimes you really want to fight, but you can't fight. Persuasion, we scare. Before you fight, your tears fall first..." Many parents have this mentality. Sometimes they temper their children because of their stubbornness, and later repent. Since ancient times, it has been natural for parents to discipline their children and teachers to discipline their students. Children who first learn to speak will read "if they don't teach, the father's fault; if they don't teach strictly, the teacher's laziness". But now, parents don't want to teach, teachers don't dare to be strict, and the relationship between father and son and between teachers and students is completely distorted. Every family is a "little emperor" and "little princess". Since birth, there have been three generations and six people around. Parents are reluctant to fight and scold. Teachers are cautious and timid when criticizing children. As a result, many children are getting more and more angry. It doesn't matter how you reason with him. Those problem children are more arrogant and domineering, go their own way and ruin their future. Li Tianyi, Li Shuangjiang's son, was sentenced to 10 years on suspicion of gang rape. Professor Qian Wenzhong of Fudan University gave a speech entitled "education, please don't give in to children in the name of love", in which I agree with one paragraph: The main idea of our education is to constantly give in to children, give children more happiness and more game time. How can there be such education in the world? After all, children are not adults. Children must be disciplined and punished. We need to tell our children that mistakes come at a price. If an atmosphere of concession to children is formed in the whole society, the future children will be terrible and our future will be terrible. The children educated in this way will not be able to bear the burden of China's future development 02 In the popular play Ode to joy, there are countless sensible and warm-hearted Andy circles. Little Andy is Liu Tao's daughter Wang Ziyan. The 7-year-old girl is already good at taking care of her brother. Liu Tao once said proudly that a pair of children are very sensible. Once on the "Venus talk show", Venus asked Liu Tao about his educational secret. Liu Tao said: girls should understand the rules from an early age and should not be too casual. "They can't blindly accommodate their children. Children must have someone who can control them.". Well said! A child must have someone who can control him! However, now many children are beyond the control of the heavenly king Lao Tzu, let alone parents, grandparents. In the past, when children were disobedient, parents would place their hopes on the school. They said, "it's good to wait until the school. Naturally, a teacher will take care of him!" when they handed the child over to the teacher, they didn't forget to tell them again and again: "if you don't obey, you'll fight!" When we were young, children were almost afraid of teachers. No matter how afraid their parents' children were, they still had some awe of teachers. People should be in awe. Only when a person has a sense of awe can he consciously restrain himself and not do anything out of line. As the old saying goes, "those who are good at fear have their mind and body right, their words have rules, their corrections have stopped, and occasionally exceed the rules, so they can't be safe.". So there is the story of "there are gods three feet above the head". Decades have passed, and now children are not even afraid of teachers. Not only are they not afraid of teachers, but they also abuse and tease teachers, and even beat teachers like the boy at the beginning of the article. There was a video in which two high school boys beat up their teachers and shouted at the camera: "I'm a student. What can you do to me?" This is the future of China, which is spoiled by the whole society! 03 In Outlaws of the marsh, Song Jiang killed Yan Poxi and wandered all the way. At that time, it was very hot and enjoyed the cool under a big tree. He fell asleep unconsciously and was awakened by a naughty boy with urine. Song Jiang didn't say anything. He gave the urchin a few copper coins and hurried away. On another day, Li Kui followed Song Jiang and happened to enjoy the cool under the big tree. He fell asleep unconsciously and was also awakened by several urchins with urine. When Li Kui woke up, he didn't know why, but he saw several bright urchins laughing and asking for copper. Li Kui was furious: "Wu, boy, dare to amuse your Black Whirlwind grandpa!" took a board axe and cut all the urchins to death. After reading this story, people often praise Song Jiang's magnanimity and strongly condemn Li Kui's recklessness and rudeness. But if we analyze it in depth, Song Jiang can't blame it. A child who pees on his face not only does not criticize, but appreciates it. The encouragement of wrong behavior will only aggravate the mistakes of children who don't know right and wrong. Unfortunately, this bad luck angered the "Black Whirlwind". Instead of getting the copper money, he lost his life! This avoidable tragedy originated from Song Jiang's indulgence! 04 However, there is no greenhouse outside the campus and no children's play after growing up. The outside world will not easily forgive those lawless children! "We always want our children to learn sophisticated things, but the loss is the tutor and style of life, which is the common sense and bottom line of life. Once at a dinner party, a friend took the child, the child climbed onto the table, turned the table like a flywheel, and grabbed what was delicious in his mouth. Adults can't stretch out chopsticks at all. I asked my friend, do you care about the child? He said that modern education should liberate nature and not bind children with the old way. He never thought that a child would eventually become a citizen and enter the society. If he ignores the existence of others and when other people's rights are hurt, will his natural performance ensure his happiness in his life? If a child is not disciplined by his parents, what price will he pay when he is repaired by the society? Therefore, Haomen wind energy teaches us self-restraint in life. The inheritance of Haomen wind from generation to generation can enable us to find the constant warmth in our hearts and find our own real life value and order in this rapidly changing era. " If you are reluctant to educate your child, the society will severely educate him! There is a student in Shenzhen who likes to study Mathematical Olympiad, but walks slowly and is always late. His classmates nicknamed him "Aote slow". Later, he was sent to England by his parents to attend high school. Once when he returned home, he told us about his experience - he worked in a Chinese restaurant opened by Chinese during his vacation. As a result, he was five minutes late for work on the first day and was fired. He didn't expect that the first severe punishment for being late was to lose his job. What impressed him most was the last advice of the Chinese boss: "young man, if I don't fire you, you don't know how cruel the outside world is!" Under the pampering of Chinese education, it is like walking on a tightrope to let students stand as punishment. Being late can naturally go unpunished. But after many years, how painful it should be to understand the heavy damage caused by a habit! 05 Instead of waiting for children to be beaten by society in the future, it is better to teach children to fear, fear life, respect elders and rules. In old China, there were family rules. The rules of the family will be engraved on the yardstick. Once the children break the rules, the yardstick will serve them. The ancients knew that there was no place without rules, and rules must be punished. Without discipline, the rules are in vain. Now many parents will "make three rules" with disobedient children, but after a few days, the children will repent. The reason is that there are only carrots and no sticks. Through reasonable punishment, let children have a sense of awe, so that they will not ignore family rules, national laws, public order and good customs. The famous educator Makarenko said: "education without punishment is incomplete education." In recent decades, Chinese people have learned the western advanced and enlightened concept of democratic education through various channels, paid attention to the protection of children's body and mind, easily threw away the "yardstick" of Chinese traditional private school education, but did not learn the Western punishment methods and laws and regulations for problem students, resulting in education walking with "one leg", which is naturally easy to become deformed. It is only the wishful thinking of "chicken soup masters" to educate children only by praise and coax, and expect to educate problem students only by probation. Education must have a corresponding disciplinary system, which is also a common practice all over the world: Almost all American schools have detention rooms. Schools have the right to suspend, confine, return to school on Saturday, expel and even send students to juvenile punishment schools. South Korea has the education Punishment Law of the Republic of Korea, which allows the use of a ruler with a length of no more than 100 cm and a thickness of no more than 1 cm to hit the lower legs of male and female students. The education and Supervision Act 2006 of the UK stipulates that teachers have the legal right to punish irregular students, including writing compositions, confinement on weekends, punishment by principals and suspension from school. Corporal punishment includes beating the palm of the hand no more than three times per hand, and whipping the boy's hip no more than six times 06 We certainly do not advocate the restoration of corporal punishment. However, if we only protect children's rights without emphasizing their responsibilities, if children can challenge order at will without any punishment, and parents and teachers can only persuade and do the so-called "ideological work", is this educational system effective? Education without punishment is a weak education, a fragile education, a superficial education and an irresponsible education. Drowning a son is like killing a son. Children cannot grow up in honey and praise. Appropriate criticism is beneficial without harm. Children are like saplings. If they don't prune and cut branches in time, they can easily grow into "crooked neck trees". Parents should not only teach their children strictly, but also form a united front with teachers to form a joint force with one heart and one mind. Most teachers are for the good of their children, and the criticism is "deep love and deep responsibility". As long as the criticism is right, parents should support teachers. Many people are grateful to their teachers when they grow up, because the teachers give timely criticism and "rein in on the brink" to avoid more serious consequences. More interestingly, many teachers lament that those who really appreciate their teachers after graduation are often the students who are criticized more. A strict father produces a filial son, but a loving mother often defeats her son.