Remember how you spent your 18th birthday? Recently, a young man gave himself a special "birthday gift" and got the blessing and praise of the whole network: Zhang Zixin, a senior three girl in Shangqiu, Henan, invited 152 sanitation workers to have a meal with his pocket money saved on his 18th birthday. She said: "I want to live a different 18-year-old with you, and I hope to commemorate my 18-year-old with this good deed." I believe this special adult ceremony will be remembered by Zhang Zixin forever. The smiling face of the 18-year-old girl will also be deeply imprinted in the memory of many people. From childish to mature, Zhang Zixin made a steady and warm step. At the same time, this also raises a question to the society: what kind of adult ceremony should we give our children? Adulthood means responsibility and responsibility, more contact with the society, what we give to the society, and what we get from the society... We need to formally start writing answers to these questions when we cross the threshold of 18. This is bound to be closely related to the road taken in the past 17 years. Take Zhang Zixin for example. When she was a child, she often worked as a volunteer with her mother. "Being kind to others" has become a habit of her. When she was a child, she may not understand what a sense of responsibility is, but she has always used her own actions to warm the society, do her best to shine her own unique light for others and society, illuminate herself and warm others. Qian Liqun, a professor of Chinese at Peking University, once put forward the concept of "exquisite egoist". He said: "All their actions are based on interests and are carefully designed. The key to their problems is that they have no faith, no great care and compassion beyond their own self-interest, no sense of responsibility and commitment, and do not care about or disdain to care about people from other classes in the world. Their personal desire is their only pursuit and goal, which has a great impact and harm on society." Such people are not uncommon in our daily life, and most of us will stay away from such people. Professor Qian put forward this concept to warn us not to become such a "person who is disgusted with others". We should not only have interests and ourselves in our eyes, but also become "sunshine in our heart" Of course, this needs to be cultivated, especially in the critical period of life to plant the "seeds of sunshine", so that it is possible to harvest more sunshine in the future. The age of 18 is such a critical period of life. This is an important stage in the formation of a person's values and outlook on life. You can find the "spiritual source" in this critical period for what kind of person you will become and what road you will embark on in the future. "When you grow up, you should become a useful person to society", which is a saying many people often heard when they were young. What is "useful" ? for some people, it may be an earth shaking and historic undertaking, but for most of us, it may be more to play our role and live an ordinary life, but we can also try to make it a little different, just like Zhang Zixin gave himself a special "birthday gift" at the age of 18. "A person's value should depend on what he has contributed, not what he has got." This contribution may not be earth shaking. Maybe it's just a warm word or a smile, but it's such a small warmth that our society will become more harmonious. When one day we get old, the little goodwill and light will become shining white sails in the long river of memory, dazzling and moving, which are engraved in our hearts. (outlook new era)