With 'Tazi', we are no longer isolated islands in the city. Tazi has become popular again. From the traditional "rice topper" and "mahjong topper" to "toilet topper", "nap topper", and "fishing topper", it seems that many young people nowadays need "topper" for everything they do, and for them, "everything can be topper" or "without topper, they don't want to go to the company restroom/eat". Why is "Tazi" so important? Everything can be built, and once built, it will be scattered: shallow social and weak relationship netizens jokingly refer to "Tazi" as "friends in vertical subdivision fields", but in fact, "Tazi" relationships are often weaker than friend relationships. Mark Granovett, former director of the Department of Sociology at Stanford University in the United States, has conducted decades of research in the field of social networks. In his article "The Power of Weak Relationships," he used four indicators to measure the strength of interpersonal relationships: length of time, emotional intensity, level of intimate trust, and degree of reciprocal behavior. Unlike friends who need to 'see the heart over time', 'partners' do not need to spend long periods of time together or interact frequently. You can add WeChat and become a "hiking companion" by saying hello during the hike; In the game group, with just one greeting, you can form a team mate and become a "game player"; On the first day of joining the new company, I shared snacks with my colleagues and became a 'lunch partner' during lunch time. But after the partner activity ended, everyone almost lost touch and there was no longer any interaction or interaction. We trust our friends and have emotional connections with them in all aspects, while 'partners' are only intimate during partner activities. Think about how strange it would be if 'hiking with children' would tell you after returning home how much they couldn't let go of their ex after a breakup; Or if a 'game player' borrows money from you, it's likely that they have encountered a scammer. Similarly, we always help our friends, but the reciprocal behavior with "partners" usually only occurs during partner activities or on things that do not require too much effort. For example, helping friends move and eating at home sounds normal; It may be okay to help 'Lunch Tazi' find a link to snacks they have bought, but if it's helping to take care of pets during the Chinese New Year, it's a bit 'out of bounds'. In summary, we can see that the "Ta Zi" relationship is generally weaker than friends in the above four aspects, and the social interaction between "Ta Zi" is a shallow social interaction. Providing information and focusing on companionship: Social support in shallow socializing, shallow socializing, and weak relationships may not provide us with strong support, but why is this social relationship still desirable? Because social support is divided into many types, shallow social support can also play an important role. Psychologists classify the social support we receive from interpersonal relationships into four categories: emotional support, which includes caring, accepting emotions, and verbal comfort; Physical comfort, such as patting or hugging; Suggest support, such as providing information, information, or giving advice directly; Material support may be money or other tangible items. Although friends can provide us with a lot of emotional support, physical comfort, and even material support, shallow social and weak relationships often provide more information than friends, which can generate enormous value at specific times
Edit：Luo yu Responsible editor：Wang xiao jing
Source：China Youth Daily
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