A few days ago, a survey conducted by the social survey center of China Youth Daily on 2006 young people aged 18-35 showed that up to 90.6% of the young people interviewed admitted that their parents had conducted verbal strike education. Different from the well-known "good children are boasted", parents who implement percussive tutoring always treat their children with a "critical" look of seeking perfection and blame. No matter what they do, they are difficult to be recognized and praised. Even if the child gets 98 points in the exam, parents should compare the 100 points of the child next door and complain about "not ideal" and "there is a gap". Although percussive tutoring does not make children suffer as much as stick education, its harm to children's soul can not be ignored. First, it will reduce children's interest in learning. People often say that "interest is the best teacher". If a child has been living in an educational environment suppressed by his parents, it is not difficult to imagine that his mood is low, his interest is indifferent and his enthusiasm is frustrated, his learning is not vigorous, and his performance naturally lags behind. Secondly, it will alienate the parent-child relationship. The family relationship between parents and children depends on children's sense of trust and security in their parents. Strike education is very easy to make children unhappy, painful and even psychological inversion, which is not only not conducive to the harmony and harmony of parent-child relationship, but also has a negative impact on the formation of children's character, and the parent-child relationship is difficult to be improved. Third, it will frustrate children's self-confidence. Practice shows that most children living in democratic families are more confident and cheerful, because their parents never stingy praise their progress and success; Children who are often hit by tutoring often show depression, depression and lack of self-confidence. To correct the percussive tutoring, we should abandon the parents' wrong cognition. The so-called "beating is kiss, scolding is love" is just a simple and rude tutor's fig leaf; "Strict teachers produce excellent students" is not just blindly teaching people on the floor; Being used to is doting. If you boast, you will "raise your tail". The cognition is too one-sided and absolute. Tutors cannot lack warmth, patience and personality respect. Tutoring needs proper, scientific and reasonable methods. It is often said that "teaching has no fixed method". Educating children also requires seeking truth from facts, adjusting measures to individual conditions, combining kindness and prestige, and combining rewards and punishments. If children make mistakes, they should criticize education. Of course, parents also need to have the psychological expectation of "fault tolerance"; Be brave and good at rejecting unreasonable demands from children. When children get excellent results or make little progress, parents should not hesitate to praise and praise. It should be noted that children are eager to be recognized, affirmed and encouraged. (outlook new era)
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